As adults we become desensitized to the ideal of a promise,
we use the term flippantly at times without any real consideration to the
meaning.
Children on the other hand understand a promise in its most
absolute sense.
How did we lose respect for the promise? Was it all of the broken promises that we
encountered throughout our childhood? Think
of the heartbreak in a child’s eyes when they remind a trusted grown up of a
promise made and forgotten or simply disregarded.
This is a typical conversation between a trusted grown up,
we’ll call “dad” and his four year old son “Little Johnny”
L.J.: Dad, dad
tomorrow’s boy’s day and ice cream day, remember?
Dad: Ooohh hey bud, I’m not going to be able
to take you for ice cream tomorrow afternoon something came up at work and I
won’t be able to get off early after all.
L.J.: But you promised that we would have boy’s
day and ice cream.
Dad: Yeah I know bud, but this meeting is
really important and my boss needs me to be there, I just can’t get out of
it. But I’ll tell you what I’ll make it
up to you, we’ll have boy’s day the next day how about that?
L.J.: Okaay dad.
L.J.: (Walks off disappointed and let down, but
tries to put on a big boy face and understand.)
What
will happen the day after tomorrow? Will
dad take L.J. for ice cream or will he be detained at work again? I don’t know and neither does L.J. Whether or not dad keeps his second promise,
L.J. has already been primed that promises don’t mean much, so the next time
someone breaks a promise he figures, he understands; promises are empty words,
they don’t mean much. In time L.J.
starts making promises he doesn’t necessarily plan to keep because that’s what
you do, right?
But
what about politicians? What about our
trusted leaders? When they make us
promises should we expect them to honor their promises or do we just take for
granted that they either willingly or inadvertently break them sometimes?
We
have come to accept and in fact expect broken promises from our politicians, yet
their promises are largely the single most important factor in our support of
them.
So
last week when the President said “then we would have broken an even more
important promise” I was disturbed.
Regardless of the context, the statement implies that a promise was
broken in order to fulfill, what has been determined to be “an even more
important promise.” I have waited and
waited for the media to bring up this sentence, but they haven’t. When we support our politicians based on
promises they make to us is there fine print?
Do we give them free reign to determine what promises are more important
than others and thereby give them the freedom to pick and choose which promises
they deem worthy to keep?
Does
dad get to say you know Little Johnny that ice cream promise isn’t as big as my
promise to make sure you don’t get any cavities, so we’re not going to have ice
cream, that way I can keep my promise that you won’t develop dental health
issues? At that point should L.J. say oh
thanks dad, you’re right that is a more important promise, we won’t worry about
that whole ice cream thing anymore.
I
don’t think so.